lil' Tyann,
Myers Briggs. Daddy G has recently been pretty obsessed and intrigued with Myers Briggs. Ever since he had been introduced, Daddy G has been neglecting Mummy G before bedtime, his eyes glued to the internet oogling at Myers Briggs.
Hahaha! Gotcha!
Daddy G's latest obsession is not another woman or celebrity, but the Myers Briggs Indicator Type (MBTI) personality test! (Bleh, what an anti-climax!=D)
Incidently, it was yours truly, Mummy G, who introduced our Daddy G to the MBTI personality test via the Facebook application called "MyType". Now, too early and probably irrelevant to explain what Facebook is to you, but I am certain it will go down your history books. Haha! =D
Back to MBTI. Through the test, Daddy G found out that he is an ISTP- An Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, Perceptive person. In short, the REALIST.
Mummy G is not very far off from him, being INTP-An Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceptive person.In short, the THEORIST.
And Facebook says Daddy and Mummy G are "neighbours". (Am I glad we are the Margate Rd and not the Everitt Rd neighbours..hohoho!.=D)
After finding out that he is an ISTP, Daddy G has been in "self & people discovery mode" and has been very proud of his strengths, declaring himself (the ISTP Realist) superior over me (the INTP Theorist).=(
He says he gets down to practical things while Mummy G (and her types) only build theories in the air.
But INTPs are smarter! Because some famous INTPs include the famous scientist, Albert Einstein! (and lil' Tyann will probably hate him when you grow older and encounter his infamous physics theories. haha! )Then Daddy G says these people are only famous when they are dead. Bleh (*oink!oink!*).....nice pail of "cold water" down my head...."__"
Daddy and Mummy G became very interested to know what type of parents we will be to lil' Tyann based on our personality type and scoured the internet for analysis done on ISTP and INTP parents.
Mummy G found some analysis and personalised the analysis by replacing the words ISTP with "Daddy G", INTP with "Mummy G" and children with "Tyann". A simple exercise. But a powerful one indeed I must say...
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Presenting the REALIST-DADDY G
Daddy G will be a flexible, laid-back and uncontrolling parent who likes to take things as they come. His dislike of being controlled or controlling others extends to Tyann as well.
Hence, Daddy G is likely to give Tyann a lot of breathing room and space for individual growth. However, when discipline is required, Daddy G will be able to administer it without too much difficulty. Daddy G may have difficulty mustering up the enthusiasm to discipline Tyann when she is naughty, but once he gets going he'll be effective.
Daddy G is likely to maintain a distance between Tyann and him. He does not feel a tremendous need to pass on his values to Tyann, or to influence her decisions in life. He is likely to rely on their mates (me, Mummy G!) for creating a structured environment for Tyann to live within.
Daddy G does not like to be directed or controlled, and is not likely to direct and control others - includig Tyann. He is likely to be relatively uninvolved with the daily happenings of family life, without making a conscious effort to keep interested.
Daddy G will enjoy spending one-on-one time with Tyann pursuing outdoorsy activities, such as fishing, boating, hunting, etc. It is during these private moments that Daddy G will take the opportunity to get to know Tyann's perspectives, and to pass on the his interests and perspectives.
And presenting the THEORIST-your Mummy G...
Mummy G loves and respects Knowledge, and wants to pass her jewels of thought down to Tyann. Her greatest goal and satisfaction as a parent is seeing her Tyann grow into an independent, rational adult.
Mummy G is likely to encourage Tyann to grow as an individual, rather than attempt to fit her into a preconceived mold. She will stress autonomy through Tyann's growth. She is likely to respect Tyann's opinions and wishes, and allow Tyann to have a voice and presence in the family.
Mummy G is likely to be pretty laid-back and flexible with Tyann, sometimes to the point of being relatively "hands-off" with regards to the day-to-day issues.
Mummy G likely to count on her spouse (Daddy G-oh dear, who to provide the structures now??) for providing structure and schedules. Since she does not live in an overly structured or organized manner, she is not likely to expect or create this environment for Tyann.
If Daddy G is not someone with the "J" preference, Tyann may suffer from a lack of boundaries. This is something Mummy G should pay special attention to. Lil' Growing Tyann does not know Right from Wrong, and will so benefit from having her parents define these boundaries for her.
In spite of her relatively unstructured approach to parenting, Mummy G takes her role as parent very seriously, and is likely to put forth much effort into doing what she feels will be most effective in helping Tyann grow into an independent, wise adult. Mummy G will enjoy parenting, and will get a lot of fun out of Tyann. She is also likely to be a very proud and loyal parent.
Mummy G may have a problem meeting the emotional needs of Tyann. Although she is generally a deeply caring and supportive person, Mummy G does not always pick up on emotional clues. A troubled Tyann of an unaware Mummy G may have to result to drastic "attention-getting" tactics to get Mummy G to understand her emotional difficulties.
If Mummy G finds herself in this situation, she may find that expressing some of her own emotions will do wonders for Tyann, herself, and their relationship. Although it may not be possible for Mummy G to suddenly be "tuned in" on what Tyann would be feeling, at least she can let her know that she cares.
Tyann will likely remember Mummy G respectfully and affectionately as a loyal, fair, and tolerant Mummy, who cares for her a great deal, although she don't often show it.
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Sometimes we do not understand our parents and do not understand why they think, behave or react in certain ways. As Mummy G went through the above exercise, a strange epiphany came over me and suddenly I realised how misunderstood Mummy G's own parents must have felt when Mummy G could not agree with them.
So, let this be a guiding light for all in the House of Gs.
For Daddy and Mummy G, it will serve as a constant reminder of areas to watch out for and do better so as to help lil' Tyann grow up to be a fine, happy and wholesome lady.
For lil' Tyann, this will serve as a constant guide for you. As you grow older and start to question why Daddy or Mummy G are making certain- perhaps unagreeable decisions, may you always refer to this guide to understand our unspoken intents,words, feelings and love for you-however we may, or may not, have expressed them.
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
A time to remember
Lil' Tyann
Been a few days since Mummy G spoke to you and your kicks are getting harder and harder. Well done lil' one, it just shows you are getting stronger by the day! =)
Mummy and Daddy G have moved on to prepare ourselves for you to join us in the House of Gs, sometime in October (please come out earlier so Mummy G can earlier embark on her slimming program! Hahaha!)
Mummy G had been thinking about the day you come out of me. Aunty Gym Lynda told Mummy G over our last Makansutra session that the best thing I can ever do for myself is to have a natural birth with no painkillers, drugs, epidurals whatsoever.
Aunty Gym Lynda, who has given birth to a few children this way, described the pain as undescribably painful. However, she has never regretted going au natural. She told Mummy G that the moment the baby slid out of her, she felt a rush of emotions that she had never felt in her life. At that moment, she forgot all the pain that she had gone through and she knew that she knew- she loved this child deeply, beyond the depths of her heart.
A few seconds of emotions, but enough to last her a lifetime.
When her baby cried, she remembered that moment her baby came forth her. When her child fell ill, she rememebered that moment her baby came forth her. When her toddler got on her nerves, she remembered the moment her baby came forth her. When her child was rude to her, hurt and disappointed her, she remembered the moment her baby came forth her.
And with this remembrance, she found strength to overcome difficult times, patience to care and capacity to forgive.
Mummy G had a pretty "depressing" weekend when I witnessed some very difficult children and family ties. Those scenes made Mummy G stop in her tracks of her excitement in anticipating baby Tyann. Those scenes made Mummy G waver and wonder what if:
a) What if Mummy G failed to care for lil' Tyann the way she ought to be cared for?
b) What if Mummy G failed to discipline lil' Tyann when she needed to be?
c) What if Mummy G failed to provide lil' Tyann the best display of love?
i) What if lil' Tyann was rude to Mummy G?
ii)What if lil' Tyann would become unruly?
iii)What if lil' Tyann would not behave the way Daddy and Mummy G would wish she would?
And to all of the above questions, Mummy G suddenly remembered what Uncle Dentist Philip Goh told her.
Uncle Dentist told Mummy G that the reason God gives us children, is not to let us relish in how the child will behave, look, or become. It is not about expecting our children to be who we want them to be.
God gives us children to teach us about unconditional love. This means:
a) What if Mummy G failed to care for lil' Tyann the way she ought to be cared for?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
b) What if Mummy G failed to discipline lil' Tyann when she needed to be?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
c) What if Mummy G failed to provide lil' Tyann the best display of love?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
i) What if lil' Tyann was rude to Mummy G?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
ii) What if lil' Tyann would become unruly?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
iii) What if lil' Tyann would not behave the way Daddy and Mummy G would wish she would?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
Hence Mummy G will try her utmost to heed Aunty Gym Lynda's advice-to go for an au natural birth with no pain relief.
For Mummy G believes what will carry her through the years of her life with lil' Tyann is by remembering the moment her baby came forth her.
Been a few days since Mummy G spoke to you and your kicks are getting harder and harder. Well done lil' one, it just shows you are getting stronger by the day! =)
Mummy and Daddy G have moved on to prepare ourselves for you to join us in the House of Gs, sometime in October (please come out earlier so Mummy G can earlier embark on her slimming program! Hahaha!)
Mummy G had been thinking about the day you come out of me. Aunty Gym Lynda told Mummy G over our last Makansutra session that the best thing I can ever do for myself is to have a natural birth with no painkillers, drugs, epidurals whatsoever.
Aunty Gym Lynda, who has given birth to a few children this way, described the pain as undescribably painful. However, she has never regretted going au natural. She told Mummy G that the moment the baby slid out of her, she felt a rush of emotions that she had never felt in her life. At that moment, she forgot all the pain that she had gone through and she knew that she knew- she loved this child deeply, beyond the depths of her heart.
A few seconds of emotions, but enough to last her a lifetime.
When her baby cried, she remembered that moment her baby came forth her. When her child fell ill, she rememebered that moment her baby came forth her. When her toddler got on her nerves, she remembered the moment her baby came forth her. When her child was rude to her, hurt and disappointed her, she remembered the moment her baby came forth her.
And with this remembrance, she found strength to overcome difficult times, patience to care and capacity to forgive.
Mummy G had a pretty "depressing" weekend when I witnessed some very difficult children and family ties. Those scenes made Mummy G stop in her tracks of her excitement in anticipating baby Tyann. Those scenes made Mummy G waver and wonder what if:
a) What if Mummy G failed to care for lil' Tyann the way she ought to be cared for?
b) What if Mummy G failed to discipline lil' Tyann when she needed to be?
c) What if Mummy G failed to provide lil' Tyann the best display of love?
i) What if lil' Tyann was rude to Mummy G?
ii)What if lil' Tyann would become unruly?
iii)What if lil' Tyann would not behave the way Daddy and Mummy G would wish she would?
And to all of the above questions, Mummy G suddenly remembered what Uncle Dentist Philip Goh told her.
Uncle Dentist told Mummy G that the reason God gives us children, is not to let us relish in how the child will behave, look, or become. It is not about expecting our children to be who we want them to be.
God gives us children to teach us about unconditional love. This means:
a) What if Mummy G failed to care for lil' Tyann the way she ought to be cared for?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
b) What if Mummy G failed to discipline lil' Tyann when she needed to be?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
c) What if Mummy G failed to provide lil' Tyann the best display of love?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
i) What if lil' Tyann was rude to Mummy G?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
ii) What if lil' Tyann would become unruly?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
iii) What if lil' Tyann would not behave the way Daddy and Mummy G would wish she would?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
Hence Mummy G will try her utmost to heed Aunty Gym Lynda's advice-to go for an au natural birth with no pain relief.
For Mummy G believes what will carry her through the years of her life with lil' Tyann is by remembering the moment her baby came forth her.
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
Love. Do you smell it in the air?
Lil' Tyann,
I have to introduce someone who is very special in Daddy and Mummy G's lives to you. This someone, is someone who is going to be very important to lil' Tyann, apart from Daddy & Mummy G. In fact, I will say that she is as important as Daddy & Mummy G will be to you. (almost...)
This someone was the one who saw Mummy G is her "darkest" moments of her life and was there for Mummy G when she needed someone.
This someone was the one who played a huge role in coordinating Daddy and Mummy G's wedding. (So she is very instrumental to your presence in this world! ;D).
This someone is your Godma Ling.
Daddy and Mummy G have been extremely blessed to have Godma Ling in our lives. When she heard that Mummy G was having you in her tummy, she immediately decided that she was going to be your Godma! And Godma Ling does not take in Godchildren easily. Nope she does not. Your Godma Ling is very selective! In fact, Godma Ling never had any desire to have any Godchildren until that moment Mummy G told her I was having you. ( I guess you, lil Tyann, managed to spark off maternal instincts in TWO women!! Whao!)
Yesterday, Mummy G consulted Godma Ling on your chinese name. Godma Ling is a Mandarin Guru (now you know who to go to to learn your second language!) whereas Daddy and Mummy G are ermm... put it this way-unpolished in the language! =D
Mummy G was extremely touched by Godma Ling. Her enthusiasm in picking the best chinese name for you brought a surge of warmth to Mummy G's heart.;)
Godma Ling even went to the extent of helping you to find a Chinese (astrology?) website which can tell us if the number of strokes in each character of your potential name will give you a good life in future. The website was ALL in chinese (wouldn't have made a difference if it was Greek..hehe..) and Godma Ling told mummy (insinuating I "really cannot make it" in my Mandarin.keke) she will take care of ensuring you have the best possible chinese name.
And just like almost anything in this world that falls into Godma Ling's magical hands, lil' Tyann will be assured that Godma Ling will do a perfect job of finding the best chinese characters for your name. ;D
Lil' Tyann, this is love. Smell it. It's in the air.
Today your Mui Ngee Yiyi asked me when is Mummy G's next check up at Doctor Fong's. She wanted to go to Dr Fong's with Daddy & Mummy G for our next meeting with you because she wanted introduce herself to you as well (plus a free lunch at PS Cafe? Ha ha).
Lil' Tyann's Yi yi wanted to see how you look like because she is so excited that you are coming to this world in just a few months' time. She wanted to see her lil' niece Tyann happily kicking, somersaulting and practising "yoga" in Mummy G's tummy. So remember to wave hello to your Yiyi when you see her next week! =)
Talented Yiyi wrote and sang a very touching song as a wedding gift for Daddy & Mummy G. It was a song that brought tears to Mummy G's eyes when she heard it. The tears came neither due to the soothing melody nor meaningful lyrics. The tears came merely because it was a song for Daddy & Mummy G written by your Yiyi.
Lil' Tyann, this is love. Smell it. It's in the air.
Mummy G is home alone with Tyann today. Daddy G has gone travelling again. Oh, speaking of which, you may not get to see Daddy G much during weekdays in the future because he travels a lot for work and has been doing so for the past 7-8 years since he started working. Mummy G is very used to it.
Daddy G will usually be back by Fridays.
Come Fridays, Mummy G will always take our "Big Uncle Black Tucson" to the airport to meet Daddy G. In future, Mummy G will take BOTH "Big Uncle Black Tucson" and lil' Tyann to the airport to meet our Daddy G at the airport when he comes home from his overseas trips. You will love the airport lil' Tyann and I know you will be beaming with excitement the moment you see Daddy G walk out from the Arrival gate. (with a present for you each time I BETCHA!! HAAA...)
This time Daddy G has gone to Phuket (there for work??) for a company meeting (plus suntanning, eating, island hopping!!!)after about three weeks of not travelling.
Funny thing is, much as Mummy G is used to Daddy G's travels, the House of Gs feels funny tonight-as though something is missing. Don't you think lil' Tyann?
Even though the TV is switched on and Mummy G is talking to you right now, something feels missing isn't it?
The house of Gs is missing Daddy G tonight.
The TV is on, but there is no one (slouched) at the sofa watching it.
There are sounds (coming from the TV) in the house but its not the familiar NAGGING.
Daddy G dropped Mummy G an sms and said lil' Tyann must be missing his voice. I told him Lil' Tyann and I are both missing him already. You gave Mummy G a kick just as I was composing the sms as though in agreement. ;)
Tonight, Mummy G will have to sleep without the comforting touch of Daddy G's hands on Mummy G's tummy. Lil' Tyann will have to sleep without the familiar warmth of Daddy G's "talking" hands, where Daddy G speaks to you thru them.
But Lil' Tyann, this is love. Smell it. It's in the air.
I have to introduce someone who is very special in Daddy and Mummy G's lives to you. This someone, is someone who is going to be very important to lil' Tyann, apart from Daddy & Mummy G. In fact, I will say that she is as important as Daddy & Mummy G will be to you. (almost...)
This someone was the one who saw Mummy G is her "darkest" moments of her life and was there for Mummy G when she needed someone.
This someone was the one who played a huge role in coordinating Daddy and Mummy G's wedding. (So she is very instrumental to your presence in this world! ;D).
This someone is your Godma Ling.
Daddy and Mummy G have been extremely blessed to have Godma Ling in our lives. When she heard that Mummy G was having you in her tummy, she immediately decided that she was going to be your Godma! And Godma Ling does not take in Godchildren easily. Nope she does not. Your Godma Ling is very selective! In fact, Godma Ling never had any desire to have any Godchildren until that moment Mummy G told her I was having you. ( I guess you, lil Tyann, managed to spark off maternal instincts in TWO women!! Whao!)
Yesterday, Mummy G consulted Godma Ling on your chinese name. Godma Ling is a Mandarin Guru (now you know who to go to to learn your second language!) whereas Daddy and Mummy G are ermm... put it this way-unpolished in the language! =D
Mummy G was extremely touched by Godma Ling. Her enthusiasm in picking the best chinese name for you brought a surge of warmth to Mummy G's heart.;)
Godma Ling even went to the extent of helping you to find a Chinese (astrology?) website which can tell us if the number of strokes in each character of your potential name will give you a good life in future. The website was ALL in chinese (wouldn't have made a difference if it was Greek..hehe..) and Godma Ling told mummy (insinuating I "really cannot make it" in my Mandarin.keke) she will take care of ensuring you have the best possible chinese name.
And just like almost anything in this world that falls into Godma Ling's magical hands, lil' Tyann will be assured that Godma Ling will do a perfect job of finding the best chinese characters for your name. ;D
Lil' Tyann, this is love. Smell it. It's in the air.
Today your Mui Ngee Yiyi asked me when is Mummy G's next check up at Doctor Fong's. She wanted to go to Dr Fong's with Daddy & Mummy G for our next meeting with you because she wanted introduce herself to you as well (plus a free lunch at PS Cafe? Ha ha).
Lil' Tyann's Yi yi wanted to see how you look like because she is so excited that you are coming to this world in just a few months' time. She wanted to see her lil' niece Tyann happily kicking, somersaulting and practising "yoga" in Mummy G's tummy. So remember to wave hello to your Yiyi when you see her next week! =)
Talented Yiyi wrote and sang a very touching song as a wedding gift for Daddy & Mummy G. It was a song that brought tears to Mummy G's eyes when she heard it. The tears came neither due to the soothing melody nor meaningful lyrics. The tears came merely because it was a song for Daddy & Mummy G written by your Yiyi.
Lil' Tyann, this is love. Smell it. It's in the air.
Mummy G is home alone with Tyann today. Daddy G has gone travelling again. Oh, speaking of which, you may not get to see Daddy G much during weekdays in the future because he travels a lot for work and has been doing so for the past 7-8 years since he started working. Mummy G is very used to it.
Daddy G will usually be back by Fridays.
Come Fridays, Mummy G will always take our "Big Uncle Black Tucson" to the airport to meet Daddy G. In future, Mummy G will take BOTH "Big Uncle Black Tucson" and lil' Tyann to the airport to meet our Daddy G at the airport when he comes home from his overseas trips. You will love the airport lil' Tyann and I know you will be beaming with excitement the moment you see Daddy G walk out from the Arrival gate. (with a present for you each time I BETCHA!! HAAA...)
This time Daddy G has gone to Phuket (there for work??) for a company meeting (plus suntanning, eating, island hopping!!!)after about three weeks of not travelling.
Funny thing is, much as Mummy G is used to Daddy G's travels, the House of Gs feels funny tonight-as though something is missing. Don't you think lil' Tyann?
Even though the TV is switched on and Mummy G is talking to you right now, something feels missing isn't it?
The house of Gs is missing Daddy G tonight.
The TV is on, but there is no one (slouched) at the sofa watching it.
There are sounds (coming from the TV) in the house but its not the familiar NAGGING.
Daddy G dropped Mummy G an sms and said lil' Tyann must be missing his voice. I told him Lil' Tyann and I are both missing him already. You gave Mummy G a kick just as I was composing the sms as though in agreement. ;)
Tonight, Mummy G will have to sleep without the comforting touch of Daddy G's hands on Mummy G's tummy. Lil' Tyann will have to sleep without the familiar warmth of Daddy G's "talking" hands, where Daddy G speaks to you thru them.
But Lil' Tyann, this is love. Smell it. It's in the air.
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