Obsesssion with Myers Briggs

lil' Tyann,

Myers Briggs. Daddy G has recently been pretty obsessed and intrigued with Myers Briggs. Ever since he had been introduced, Daddy G has been neglecting Mummy G before bedtime, his eyes glued to the internet oogling at Myers Briggs.

Hahaha! Gotcha!

Daddy G's latest obsession is not another woman or celebrity, but the Myers Briggs Indicator Type (MBTI) personality test! (Bleh, what an anti-climax!=D)

Incidently, it was yours truly, Mummy G, who introduced our Daddy G to the MBTI personality test via the Facebook application called "MyType". Now, too early and probably irrelevant to explain what Facebook is to you, but I am certain it will go down your history books. Haha! =D

Back to MBTI. Through the test, Daddy G found out that he is an ISTP- An Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, Perceptive person. In short, the REALIST.

Mummy G is not very far off from him, being INTP-An Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceptive person.In short, the THEORIST.

And Facebook says Daddy and Mummy G are "neighbours". (Am I glad we are the Margate Rd and not the Everitt Rd neighbours..hohoho!.=D)

After finding out that he is an ISTP, Daddy G has been in "self & people discovery mode" and has been very proud of his strengths, declaring himself (the ISTP Realist) superior over me (the INTP Theorist).=(

He says he gets down to practical things while Mummy G (and her types) only build theories in the air.

But INTPs are smarter! Because some famous INTPs include the famous scientist, Albert Einstein! (and lil' Tyann will probably hate him when you grow older and encounter his infamous physics theories. haha! )Then Daddy G says these people are only famous when they are dead. Bleh (*oink!oink!*).....nice pail of "cold water" down my head...."__"

Daddy and Mummy G became very interested to know what type of parents we will be to lil' Tyann based on our personality type and scoured the internet for analysis done on ISTP and INTP parents.

Mummy G found some analysis and personalised the analysis by replacing the words ISTP with "Daddy G", INTP with "Mummy G" and children with "Tyann". A simple exercise. But a powerful one indeed I must say...

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Presenting the REALIST-DADDY G

Daddy G will be a flexible, laid-back and uncontrolling parent who likes to take things as they come. His dislike of being controlled or controlling others extends to Tyann as well.

Hence, Daddy G is likely to give Tyann a lot of breathing room and space for individual growth. However, when discipline is required, Daddy G will be able to administer it without too much difficulty. Daddy G may have difficulty mustering up the enthusiasm to discipline Tyann when she is naughty, but once he gets going he'll be effective.

Daddy G is likely to maintain a distance between Tyann and him. He does not feel a tremendous need to pass on his values to Tyann, or to influence her decisions in life. He is likely to rely on their mates (me, Mummy G!) for creating a structured environment for Tyann to live within.

Daddy G does not like to be directed or controlled, and is not likely to direct and control others - includig Tyann. He is likely to be relatively uninvolved with the daily happenings of family life, without making a conscious effort to keep interested.

Daddy G will enjoy spending one-on-one time with Tyann pursuing outdoorsy activities, such as fishing, boating, hunting, etc. It is during these private moments that Daddy G will take the opportunity to get to know Tyann's perspectives, and to pass on the his interests and perspectives.

And presenting the THEORIST-your Mummy G...

Mummy G loves and respects Knowledge, and wants to pass her jewels of thought down to Tyann. Her greatest goal and satisfaction as a parent is seeing her Tyann grow into an independent, rational adult.

Mummy G is likely to encourage Tyann to grow as an individual, rather than attempt to fit her into a preconceived mold. She will stress autonomy through Tyann's growth. She is likely to respect Tyann's opinions and wishes, and allow Tyann to have a voice and presence in the family.

Mummy G is likely to be pretty laid-back and flexible with Tyann, sometimes to the point of being relatively "hands-off" with regards to the day-to-day issues.

Mummy G likely to count on her spouse (Daddy G-oh dear, who to provide the structures now??) for providing structure and schedules. Since she does not live in an overly structured or organized manner, she is not likely to expect or create this environment for Tyann.

If Daddy G is not someone with the "J" preference, Tyann may suffer from a lack of boundaries. This is something Mummy G should pay special attention to. Lil' Growing Tyann does not know Right from Wrong, and will so benefit from having her parents define these boundaries for her.

In spite of her relatively unstructured approach to parenting, Mummy G takes her role as parent very seriously, and is likely to put forth much effort into doing what she feels will be most effective in helping Tyann grow into an independent, wise adult. Mummy G will enjoy parenting, and will get a lot of fun out of Tyann. She is also likely to be a very proud and loyal parent.

Mummy G may have a problem meeting the emotional needs of Tyann. Although she is generally a deeply caring and supportive person, Mummy G does not always pick up on emotional clues. A troubled Tyann of an unaware Mummy G may have to result to drastic "attention-getting" tactics to get Mummy G to understand her emotional difficulties.

If Mummy G finds herself in this situation, she may find that expressing some of her own emotions will do wonders for Tyann, herself, and their relationship. Although it may not be possible for Mummy G to suddenly be "tuned in" on what Tyann would be feeling, at least she can let her know that she cares.

Tyann will likely remember Mummy G respectfully and affectionately as a loyal, fair, and tolerant Mummy, who cares for her a great deal, although she don't often show it.
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Sometimes we do not understand our parents and do not understand why they think, behave or react in certain ways. As Mummy G went through the above exercise, a strange epiphany came over me and suddenly I realised how misunderstood Mummy G's own parents must have felt when Mummy G could not agree with them.

So, let this be a guiding light for all in the House of Gs.

For Daddy and Mummy G, it will serve as a constant reminder of areas to watch out for and do better so as to help lil' Tyann grow up to be a fine, happy and wholesome lady.

For lil' Tyann, this will serve as a constant guide for you. As you grow older and start to question why Daddy or Mummy G are making certain- perhaps unagreeable decisions, may you always refer to this guide to understand our unspoken intents,words, feelings and love for you-however we may, or may not, have expressed them.