A time to remember

Lil' Tyann

Been a few days since Mummy G spoke to you and your kicks are getting harder and harder. Well done lil' one, it just shows you are getting stronger by the day! =)

Mummy and Daddy G have moved on to prepare ourselves for you to join us in the House of Gs, sometime in October (please come out earlier so Mummy G can earlier embark on her slimming program! Hahaha!)

Mummy G had been thinking about the day you come out of me. Aunty Gym Lynda told Mummy G over our last Makansutra session that the best thing I can ever do for myself is to have a natural birth with no painkillers, drugs, epidurals whatsoever.

Aunty Gym Lynda, who has given birth to a few children this way, described the pain as undescribably painful. However, she has never regretted going au natural. She told Mummy G that the moment the baby slid out of her, she felt a rush of emotions that she had never felt in her life. At that moment, she forgot all the pain that she had gone through and she knew that she knew- she loved this child deeply, beyond the depths of her heart.

A few seconds of emotions, but enough to last her a lifetime.

When her baby cried, she remembered that moment her baby came forth her. When her child fell ill, she rememebered that moment her baby came forth her. When her toddler got on her nerves, she remembered the moment her baby came forth her. When her child was rude to her, hurt and disappointed her, she remembered the moment her baby came forth her.

And with this remembrance, she found strength to overcome difficult times, patience to care and capacity to forgive.

Mummy G had a pretty "depressing" weekend when I witnessed some very difficult children and family ties. Those scenes made Mummy G stop in her tracks of her excitement in anticipating baby Tyann. Those scenes made Mummy G waver and wonder what if:

a) What if Mummy G failed to care for lil' Tyann the way she ought to be cared for?
b) What if Mummy G failed to discipline lil' Tyann when she needed to be?
c) What if Mummy G failed to provide lil' Tyann the best display of love?

i) What if lil' Tyann was rude to Mummy G?
ii)What if lil' Tyann would become unruly?
iii)What if lil' Tyann would not behave the way Daddy and Mummy G would wish she would?

And to all of the above questions, Mummy G suddenly remembered what Uncle Dentist Philip Goh told her.

Uncle Dentist told Mummy G that the reason God gives us children, is not to let us relish in how the child will behave, look, or become. It is not about expecting our children to be who we want them to be.

God gives us children to teach us about unconditional love. This means:
a) What if Mummy G failed to care for lil' Tyann the way she ought to be cared for?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
b) What if Mummy G failed to discipline lil' Tyann when she needed to be?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
c) What if Mummy G failed to provide lil' Tyann the best display of love?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.

i) What if lil' Tyann was rude to Mummy G?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
ii) What if lil' Tyann would become unruly?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.
iii) What if lil' Tyann would not behave the way Daddy and Mummy G would wish she would?
Mummy G would remember the moment her baby came forth her.

Hence Mummy G will try her utmost to heed Aunty Gym Lynda's advice-to go for an au natural birth with no pain relief.

For Mummy G believes what will carry her through the years of her life with lil' Tyann is by remembering the moment her baby came forth her.